Beauty starts from within (our brain)

When people say someone is ugly, are they really looking at that person - I mean REALLY looking? Beauty is something that is held in the eye of the beholder as they say and it is far from wrong. I often look at couples who - to me at least - look unnatractive and think that even they are not appealing to me, at least they are a couple. That can only mean that those two people are attracted to each other for a reason.

The reason is not clear except for the fact that neither of them are appealing to me. However, on the inside of that couple there is an element that must be at least likeable to another person or thy wouldn't be a couple in the first place.

Have you ever wondered why people get attracted to other people? Why would someone find another person more attractive? Let me put the question again in another way. Have you ever wondered why we get attracted only to certain people than we do to others given that all other factors are being constant?

I know some of us have never thought of this but one thing I also know is that nature does not make it like that without a cause. It happens so with a clear purpose behind it.

In one of my articles, why do we find some people attractive and what attracts people to each other?

There are five common factors that usually draw us to another potential partner:-

Physical attraction: The first thing that attracts us to others is our physical appearance. This is the number one factor that makes us see others as such. It is this same standard that starts almost every relationship. Although not everyone puts much emphasis on sight looks, still it’s what draws most people to see others as attractive. A person can alter physical appearance in different poses and postures to make someone find them attractive even if they are not concious of it. This is why we tend to 'check' ourselves when we someone attarcative. We do this by perhaps, touching our hair or unknosingly pouting our lips in the case of women at least. Men tend to slick their hair. Smiling is one of the most common ways of attracticng another person.

Common interest: People will usually be attracted or drawn to others when they share common interest and values. Until someone finds some common interest that both of you can offer before they will find you interesting. So, if a person has been facing difficulties with a certain thing they will automatically be attracted to another person having the same difficulty because they can share a common interest. And that is why we tend to be attracted to the people who possess what we need.

Nearness distance: Another factor that makes us attracted to others is the physical proximity that we keep with the person. That is why when someone moves to another town, house or workplace, they soon make new friends because of the physical proximity that they have daily and that is the same reason why we tend to find our neighbors and friends more attractive due to the common factor that we have with them.

Attraction and Familiarity: Another factor that makes us find people attractive is familiarity. This is because when we are searching for a friend or partner, we unconsciously look for those who are familiar to us or resemble the people we love or remind us of someone we have had a good relationship with before. It explains why certain men and women seek a mother or father figure- especially if they had a good relationship with their parents.

Attraction and criteria: An important reason as to why people get attracted to each other is when they match the list of qualifications stored in our minds called subconscious criteria. When someone matches the greater percentage of these qualifications, we automatically find the person as being interesting while on the other hand, if we’re in search of a partner and found someone who does not match these standards automatically, the person becomes uninteresting to them.

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